In different parts of the world, same-sex relationships are either legally accepted or strictly forbidden. While some countries impose harsh penalties, human rights groups continue to push for equal treatment. In Rwanda, however, the law remains silent on the issue.
Despite same-sex relationships being widely viewed as culturally unacceptable, some individuals say they entered such relationships due to economic hardship, peer pressure, or the hope of securing opportunities abroad.
A 36-year-old woman living in Kigali, said that she has been in same-sex relationships for the past ten years. She explained that she grew up like any other person and previously dated men between the ages of 20 and 24.
Her shift to dating women began at 26, two years after completing secondary school. According to Uwase, her decision was influenced by her social circle and the belief that being in a same-sex relationship could make it easier to obtain travel documents for Europe or the United States.
“It started at school. I used to share a room with another girl who later made advances toward me. At first, I refused, but over time, things changed,” she said.
Uwase added that many of her friends claimed people in same-sex relationships were quickly granted visas and received financial support from international organizations.
“I wanted to go to the U.S. or Europe. They told me getting a visa would be easy, so I joined them. But things didn’t turn out the way I expected,” she explained.
She also admitted that the desire for a better life and quick financial stability played a role in her decision.
“I don’t call myself a lesbian because I was born like everyone else. I only got into it because I was told there was money in it,” she said.
Another factor that influenced her choice was a painful experience with a former boyfriend who denied responsibility after she became pregnant.
“I started avoiding men after that. Meeting other women who accepted me made it easier to continue in that lifestyle,” Uwase added.
She noted that while some people enter same-sex relationships by choice, many others do so in search of financial support or opportunities to travel abroad.
“Sometimes people follow a path hoping it will change their lives. Mine didn’t take me to Europe or America, but I don’t regret it. I live like any other Rwandan,” she said.
Uwase also revealed that her family and community initially rejected her, treating her as an outcast. Over time, however, attitudes changed as she became financially independent.
“When you have money and you’re doing well, people treat you differently. I work, I support myself, and no one has a reason to judge me now,” she concluded.
KIGALI TIMES